Make Sure You’re Doing it for the Right Reasons:
Be honest with yourselves and discuss whether or not you’re moving in together to move your relationship forward.
If you have been dating for a few years, have had serious arguments (and recovered!), have experienced each other’s best and worst moods and still want to move in with each other, chances are you’re doing it for the right reasons.
If you can’t afford to live on your own and the main positive seems to be that you’re there a lot anyway, you might want to rethink your decision.
Answering these tough questions now will save you a lot of heartache later and prevent you from being trapped in a relationship because you signed a lease or can’t afford to move out.
Figure Out Your Finances Together:
There is absolutely no exception here. This is something you must do before you even start looking at apartments together. Have a frank discussion with each other without getting your emotions involved.
Figure out who’s name will be on the lease and who the utilities, cable, and internet bills will be registered to. You will also need to establish a budget for groceries and other household expenses.
This will not be a romantic discussion but it will help you to avoid any surprises in the future.
Establish Ground Rules:
If you’re both used to living alone, once you start sharing living space together, you’re going to discover that the way you are used to living may not be compatible with the way that your significant other is used to living.
You need to find a way to make your lifestyles and habits unite together seamlessly.
There is a good chance you already know what you can and can’t live with. Being honest with each other in the beginning will mean less time spent butting heads going forward.
Split Up the Chores:
Now that you’re going to see each other every single day, you’ll both need to be brutally honest about your strongest and weakest domestic skills.
Who will be in charge of cleaning the dishes, sorting the laundry, vacuuming, etc?
Splitting up the chores in advance means that neither party will be left feeling like a servant. Everybody needs to pull their own weight. This is a partnership, after all.
Accept that Your Relationship Will Change:
Whether or not your relationship will survive after you move in together will be dependent on how much effort both of you are willing to put in.
Changes to your relationship are inevitable; it will be up to each party to keep the relationship fresh and interesting.
Don’t let the challenges intimidate you. Living together is a huge step in your relationship but will lead to some of the best times of your life.